I Have the Right in a Relationship:

• To be treated with respect - always
• To be in a healthy relationship
• To not be abused - physically, sexually or emotionally
• To enjoy friends and activities apart from my romantic partner
• To express myself honestly
• To recognize my culture and identities
• To determine my values and set limits
• To decide what I share with whom
• To say “no”
• To feel safe
• To be treated as an equal
• To feel comfortable being myself

 
I Have the Responsibility in a Relationship:

• To communicate my values and limits
• To respect my romantic partner's limits, values, feelings, and privacy
• To accept my romantic partner's culture and identities
• To not be abusive - physically, sexually, or emotionally
• To listen
• To be considerate
• To communicate clearly, honestly, and respectfully
• To give my partner space to enjoy activities and friendships outside of our relationship
• To not exert power or control in the relationship
• To compromise when needed
• To admit to being wrong when appropriate
• To ask for help from friends, family and mentors

 
 
Understanding Sexual Consent
 
Many sexual assaults happen because one of the people involved think they have consent when they do not. Healthy sexual intimacy is mutual, not coerced and consenting.
 
How do you know you have consent?
 
These 4 Conditions of Consent Must be Present:
 
1. Both participants must be fully conscious
The higher the level of intoxication, the less likely this condition is met.
 
2. Both Participants are Equally Free to Act
The Absence of “No” is not a “Yes”. Should be free of pressure or coercion.
 
3. Both Participants Have Clearly Communicated What They Desire
Should be clear affirmative consent either verbally or by clear actions.
 
4. Both Participants should be Sincere and Honest in Their Desires
Saying things you don’t mean to “get sex” undermines the idea of consent.
These conditions are not absolutes, but the greater these conditions are present the greater chance that both participants are consenting.